Talked with a friend today. Have been ages I think.. Talked about the good days. Coming to the topic of our good old argument. Fidelity. I have argued with many others through the years about this. What does it really mean to a person? I have come across a very good quote on this that was sent by a friend(although I cannot remember what exactly the words were, I quite remember the thought). It says that it is not wrong to have flings with the opposite sex when you're not in a relationship, but once you're into one, know your boundaries, playing with fire might be fun, but in the end, when all is gone, all you have is yourself to weep.

Time has not changed both of us. But being into this relationship has changed some thinking(as I believed) The last time I had an argument about this was with my special someone. If I remembered correctly, I was having the fidelity thought in my mind as an essential thing in every relationship. But he asked what do you really mean by fidelity and then I remembered being asked this and that.

Now, after an afternoon arguing, what is the extent of "fidelity"? Is it just about being contented? I believe it's more of a discipline. It is a choice. You being contented, being careful of what you already have. True that in this world, there are always things that is more beautiful than what you have, but once you see something better and left what you already have, is there any guarantee that you will be happy(for the mean time maybe). To what extent then? Meeting someone from the net? Being with an old flame? Sparking some new fire from somewhere? I was thinking, what if this happened to me? To what extent would I be able to accept it from my partner?

From here, to what extent now am I willing to forgive? I have much patience, but if it runs out, I'm near the point of no return. On my perspective before, I would be very much willing to leave everything behind if there would be such thing. But i have no sure answer right now.

But one thing I am pretty sure right now is that honesty never run out of fashion. Honesty in the sense that the partner is the first one to give the information not after a whole lot of questioning dawned upon him.

What a girl NEED to find out she will. Tried and tested. So don't try to conceal things from the gals.